Victim’s Contribution
Dr. G.Singh
Don’t wait for the good woman. She doesn’t exist. There are women who can make you feel more with their bodies and their souls but these are the exact women who will turn the knife into you right in front of the crowd.
Learning is a continuous process and everyone follows this. Only few use the learning for the betterment of society, rest all just learn for personal use even sometimes they do not even use their learning.
Once a victim someday can become an activist but not necessarily. Most victims don’t even bother to learn they join in sorting out their problem. As soon as they came out of the problem they left. Why do people join and leave ?
We are part of a movement where most people join after a shock. A kid born with no thoughts, but as soon as he opens his eyes he learns to be anti-men. We are living in a society where a biased training is at its peak. Society was always biased, but today when communication is so high, biased behaviour is also at peak. What a kid learns from society as well as from formal education is to be anti-male. As a result when the kid becomes young his mind is skilled to think in a specific way, where he competes with his own gender, he hates his own gender, he becomes a rival of his own gender. At the same time the opposite gender becomes a victim by his own gender. It is not failure of his gender but it is hard work of the opposite gender. Opposite gender has invested a lot of time and will to prove our gender a wasta bucket, and the hard work pays well.
| Feminists don’t believe in Equality. They believe that women need to be prioritized and helped because men are misogynists out to oppress them. If they wanted equality, they would help those who need it. |
Most of the time the golden period waves off and the men face the truth. Sometimes the truth comes as a shock and the shocked men join the movement. Although almost everyone sees the truth and many face the shock, but one thing is common for most men, they don’t come forward to share the truth. They hide their experience from others. As a result men start thinking it was their bad luck that he met a bad lady, rest all ladies are angels. Once a wise men (Charles Bukowski) said :
Don’t wait for the good woman. She doesn’t exist. There are women who can make you feel more with their bodies and their souls but these are the exact women who will turn the knife into you right in front of the crowd.
Men do not learn from their mistakes; their anti-male thoughts are so deep that even shock therapy does not work most of the time. The shock allowed him to stay in the movement for a short time then he left.
Most victims stay victims and they leave as soon as possible.
But all these victims are skilled. Unfortunately they do not use their skills for the movement. Sometimes they don’t want to use it and sometimes they don’t know how to use it. If someone doesn’t want to use their skill it is next to impossible to convince him but if someone doesn’t know how to use their skill they can get motivated from other’s experience and contribution.
Here I am giving a few references whose work not only inspires us but also guides us to contribute.
Manuj Gupta : Manuj Gupta is not with us now. He left us few year back but what he started is still with us. He was the founding member of Daaman Welfare Society (Daman Welfare Society). Apart from daaman his book ‘Manujnana’ is also with us.
Anupam Dubey : Anypam Dubay is a founding member of Daaman Welfare Society & Trust (www.daaman.org). His contribution can be seen in three different areas. Firstly he contributes in administration of Daaman Welfare Society & Trust, then his contribution is in on ground activities of Daaman like Weekly meeting & Events. He also handles social media accounts and websites of daaman.
Dr Uppendra Dhull : Dr. Uppendra Dhull is from Haryana and he started Daaman’s Haryana Chapter at Kurukshetra. He is actively working with other members.
Raman Rana : Raman Rana is a media person and he contributes his skills in the form of kavitas and music compositions. One of his popular kavita is :
| बेटे भी घर छोड़ के जाते हैं..
अपनी जान से ज़्यादा..प्यारा लेपटाॅप छोड़ कर… अलमारी के ऊपर रखा…धूल खाता गिटार छोड़ कर… जिम के सारे लोहे-बट्टे…और बाकी सारी मशीने… मेज़ पर बेतरतीब पड़ी…वर्कशीट, किताबें, काॅपियाँ… सारे यूँ ही छोड़ जाते है…बेटे भी घर छोड़ जाते हैं.!! अपनी मन पसन्द ब्रान्डेड…जीन्स और टीशर्ट लटका… अलमारी में कपड़े जूते…और गंध खाते पुराने मोजे… हाथ नहीं लगाने देते थे… वो सबकुछ छोड़ जाते हैं… बेटे भी घर छोड़ जाते हैं.!! जो तकिये के बिना कहीं…भी सोने से कतराते थे… आकर कोई देखे तो वो…कहीं भी अब सो जाते हैं… खाने में सो नखरे वाले..अब कुछ भी खा लेते हैं… अपने रूम में किसी को…भी नहीं आने देने वाले… अब एक बिस्तर पर सबके…साथ एडजस्ट हो जाते हैं… बेटे भी घर छोड़ जाते हैं.!! घर को मिस करते हैं लेकिन…कहते हैं ‘बिल्कुल ठीक हूँ’… सौ-सौ ख्वाहिश रखने वाले…अब कहते हैं ‘कुछ नहीं चाहिए’… पैसे कमाने की होड़ में…वो भी कागज बन जाते हैं… सिर्फ बेटियां ही नहीं साहब… बेटे भी घर छोड़ जाते हैं..! |
Apart from this raman rana has composed few other kavitas too.
Abhay : Abhay is a sensiour activist. He has contributed in the form of articles, blogs and ground level activities. Nowadays he is working on surveys and data collections.
Swastik Dev : Swastik dev is an artist. He recently started his contribution in the form of graphical representation of scripts. With the help of Swastik Dey Men’s HUB has started a series ‘Raja-Rani’ based on the concept of ‘His Choice vs Her Choice.’
Dilpreet : Dilpreet is an artist and he is designer of cartoon character called ‘Keshav & Sharma’. Keshav & Sharma was proposed by Men’s HUB Team and Dilpreet took the responsibility of giving us a final form of cartoon. In this present issue of magazine Keshav & Sharma give appearance with their 85th episode.
There are thousands of people giving contribution, unfortunately it was not possible to give space to all of them. We tried just a few of them but we will continue in coming issues.